Do you ever look at couples and wonder when it's your turn? Be it celebrity couples, couples at school, couples in the street or you're a little in love with a famous figure and wonder when you will actually find a similar kind of love where it's returned to you in a relationship.
Some people say love isn't for them, or it may be but not an intimate kind of love. Or even love someone their own gender. And that's okay. Society's "normal" is a day dream; it's silly and far from real. Don't let their beliefs restrict where your heart may wonder!
Maybe you feel restricted by the flaws your brain highlights when you look in the mirror or down at yourself or notice your personality traits. Your flaws make you as a person in their entirety, if somebody can't accept your flaws, say bye bye, they do not really love you and they are not worth your time.
Recovery is mostly about accepting yourself, but you do not have to love yourself before someone else can ever possibly love you. It takes time, and they can help you with that as long as you let them. Let them point at a flaw and say "I love you", let them point at an imperfection and say "I love you" and smile and say "I love you too". Allow them to teach you how to love yourself. Respect their beliefs, don't reject their opinions and say "no I am ugly" because that is a lie, if you love them and care about them, you would not neglect their beliefs, and that includes the belief that you are beautiful.
Love comes to us at different times. It may take two people to meet and fall inseparably in love at 16, others 20, even 50. But do not deny yourself the chance of finding love. It is out there for you, you deserve it. Though you may not have found the romantic, intimate kind of love yet, you are still surrounded by other types of love so do not say "I am unloved" because hell yeah you are!!
Soon enough you will find that kind of love. It can't be forced, it won't be a fairy tale, it won't be painless or easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
And remember, if someone is smooth talking around you from the start, it may not be love. If they haven't lost the filter between the brain and their mouth and stumble over their feet and words around you then how can you make their heart truly skip a beat?
Don't be more in love with the idea of love and fall for the wrong person. If you both have a belly full of butterflies, let them fly.
If your heart is in two places, choose the person who stole your heart second. If you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for someone else.
Cheerio loved ones - Beky x
